Grandma’s Notes on Hair & Sexuality

I found a small legal pad with some notes from my late grandmother. They were in one of the many boxes I’m just unpacking because it takes two hours to unpack a box when you’re crying into it as you go.


I admit, I was hoping for words of wisdom but what I found was four pages about a “woman’s seasons” and how a woman’s hair is part of her sexuality. (Interesting in and of itself.) It’s like she attended a horrible “hair seminar.” She was definitely not a hairstylist, so I’m not sure if this was something she saw on tv, heard at a ladies circle meeting, or maybe it was some kind of multi-level marketing scheme. [Update: My mom just called and said it had to do with a book called “Color Me Beautiful” that was popular at the time.]


The last paragraph of her notes read, “Hair is a tool in which a woman can express her sexuality and how she feels about herself. Women who neglect their hair or wear an unflattering style are telling the world they are afraid to be beautiful.”

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Advocate For Something or Stand For Nothing

Excerpt:

Many Christians and politicians are constantly referencing the Bible, what Jesus says, and what God commands Christians to do. Some politicians let their conservative faith influence their politics, smearing the lines between the separation of church and state in dangerous and destructive ways. Holding citizens (of differing religious views) hostage to the conservative interpretation of the rules and principles of a single, solitary religion. Our politics, our policies, our laws and legislation are created to protect the rights and freedoms of the people.

One of those rights is the freedom of religion, in which we choose the faith we will follow. And then, the faith of our citizens can inform and influence the way we interact with and treat one another. Contrary to the ignorance of many Christians, other faiths and religious groups are not anti-morals and anti-values. While a man named “Jesus” may not be in their Holy texts, many religions teach the same values, ethics, and virtues of peace, love, compassion, service, and justice for the suffering that Jesus taught.

[10 min. read, stick with it… it’s worth it.]

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Just start with something...

And I felt a whisper somewhere deep inside my soul, “Just start with something…”

Here I am. It’s an extremely humbling and vulnerable place to be. I feel exposed, because I know how raw and honest and risky it is to be truthful, especially in today’s context. And I’m not trying to fill anyone’s shoes or become famous or form some strange cult (and land a Netflix series).

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